Personal relationships and privacy

Do not assume that you know everything about me simply because you read my weblog on a regular basis. Any judgements you make will be based on the information I have provided you about myself, which is probably vague, incomplete or embellished. Whatever opinion you form on me as as a person, or my life as a whole, is probably best kept to yourself. Remember, you are the reader. An obvious exception to this would be if someone were asking for advice or opinions.

Never contact me for more details on events or personal information than what I have already provided on the site. Chances are if the information you seek isn’t readily available, I have found it too personal or innapropriate to share. If I feel that you are close to me, I will eventually tell you privately, so intrusive questions are not necessary, just leave it alone. If you are meant to know, you will.

If you have a real life relationship with me, remember that communication is very important. View weblogs as online journals, no less sacred than a diary hidden between the mattresses. First of all me know that you read my site, especially if I did not tell you personally.

If I do not want you reading it, or suddenly stop posting entries, ask me why and if necessary, stop going to the site. It is important that as a friend, relative, co-worker or whatever you may be to me, that your presence at my weblog not impede my ability to express myself. Remember this is my outlet. I may not want you to read certain things I might write about you or others you care about, in order to spare your feelings, avoid drama or maintain my privacy. You should respect this and immediately stop going to the site, and never relay any information you gather at my site to others who might use it against me or my loved ones.

If I write about you and you don’t appreciate it, let me know. There are many compromises that can be reached from using vague nicknames to protect your anonymity, or not mentioning you at all. If you are upset because I am writing negative things about you, be reasonable, try to see if there is a way to resolve the issues and mend your relationship with me. If that doesn’t seem to be possible, stop going to my site.

Ex-friends, lovers and estranged family members who have been cut out of my life should refrain from reading my journal. If the relationship has ended, there is no reason you should get daily updates on my life. If you simply can’t help yourself, do it quietly, and never repeat what you read or use it to hurt me.

Feedback and initiating contact

Compliments will always be graciously accepted and appreciated. Criticisms and reproaches are fine if you have a problem with something, but try to remain constructive and not be an asshole. No one is forcing you to give out your opinions, so if you don’t have anything remotely positive to say, it may be best to keep quiet.

Never assume I owe you any response. Try not to take it personally, because chances are it has more to do with my schedule than anything else. If you get upset and nasty about feeling rejected, you will probably ruin any chances you had of befriending me. Don’t delude yourself into thinking that you will be as important to me as I am to you. Remember, you are peering in on my life, sharing my thoughts. If I am cold or unreceptive to your advances, keep in mind that it’s entirely my choice.

You are free to leave responses in this blog, as long as it referred to The Core Rules of Netiquette.

Don’t be a psycho stalker.

I have the right to stop writing at any time for any reason I see fit, and at no point must I justify or explain these reasons to you or anyone. It’s my weblog, I can do with it as I please.

Offensive language and materials

The internet is a place that encourages free and creative expression, and as in any environment where people are given this freedom, conflict may arise. If I use language or materials that offend you, leave. Contacting me or my isp, demanding I remove the content or change my ways is absurd because you are viewing their content of your own free will by visiting my site. Simply stop going here and you won’t have to see whatever it is you don’t like about this site. An obvious exception to this would be if someone were providing illegal materials, in which case it would be appropriate to complain to their isp or contact authorities.

Copyright and courtesy

Never ask me to make you a layout, to help with your site or show you how to do a certain script or graphic effect that I have on my site, unless I specifically offer my help. There are plenty of tutorials available to help you, just use a search engine to find what you need.

Never use anything off this site, be it writing, images or html code, unless I say otherwise. I am very attached to my work. Copyright is protected by law and in effect the minute something is created, whether the author has a © notice or not. There are online tools where you can learn about copyright laws.

Under no circumstances should you ever direct link anything, this includes link buttons and any other graphics I may offer. It is essentially bandwidth theft. Always save the image and upload it to your own server unless I specifically state you can do otherwise.

In short: don’t be an asshole and/or a bitch.

Thank you.